Heart101: Understanding Intimate Relationship
Relationship defined as a particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other, or A romantic or sexual involvement. In my own words, relationship is the connection between two or more people that understand and respect each other. But we will focus on Intimate relationship.
Having a relationship is kind of hard. There are many questions that should be answered. Many obligations that should be done. Ask yourself, Am I a good lover? Do I satisfy the wants and needs of my lover? Does my lover satisfies me? Am I contented? Am I still happy? These are only few of the many questions you should answer in dealing with relationships. But don’t get me wrong here, I’m not pressuring or scaring you. I’m just letting you know these things to enlighten you. They will be somewhat helpful to you. TRUST ME!
Firstly, I want you to know some things before entering the world of being taken.
1. The commitment.
2. The risks.
3. The misunderstandings and fights.
4.The pain.
5. Respect.
6. Trust.
7. Communication.
8. Satisfaction.
9. Contentment.
10. Acceptance.
These are ten of the many things you really need to know and understand before entering relationships. Being in a relationship is not like playing a game, that if you are tired of playing it, you can leave. It’s not like that. Relationships should be taken seriously and wholeheartedly.
Once you are there, always be ready for some bad times. Don’t expect for the perfect relationship. It’s not always a bright sunny day. There are times that you have your bad day and he also have that kind of day. It’s not always cakes and butterflies. Always be ready for the tears. And when those horrible times come. Please, pretty please try to be calm. Think things over. Talk about it in a way that you two can really understand each other.
There’s no point on shouting at each other, blaming your lover, and physically hurting each other. Be careful enough to think before saying anything when fighting. Words are not only words. They can be so harmful at times. Words can make or break a relationship. Words can be sweet but not all the time. Words can also be so frightening.
So, before saying anything on a fight, use your brain. And also be faithful. Being faithful is one of the key to a successful relationship. Loyalty alone is not enough. And to inform you, There is a big difference between loyalty and faithfulness. Learn how to trust and respect your lover. Some of us are always in the state of paranoia. It’s okay to get jealous, but never be paranoid. Remember, those thoughts, those bad thoughts can hurt you. And you’re just hurting yourself.
Always try to be at peace. Just think that, if your lover is cheating on you, it’s not your loss. Your lover is just fooling and cheating his/her self. Lastly, Accept. Just Accept your lover. No matter what he/she is. Learn to accept everything. The good side and the flaws. Relationship is nothing but the commitment. The covenant between two people. It’s beyond the feelings.
