Random Thoughts in a Confused Mind

There’s a danger on loving somebody too much. It is sad when you know it’s your heart you can’t trust.

I once was told:

that this world is so crazy and scary. You’ll meet people of different perspective. They’ll make you smile, laugh, feel cared, feel secured and loved. But some of them will make you cry and break your heart. And make you feel you’re the most shitty thing that happened in this world.

Heart101: Understanding Intimate Relationship

Relationship defined as a particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other, or A romantic or sexual involvement. In my own words, relationship is the connection between two or more people that understand and respect each other. But we will focus on Intimate relationship.

Having a relationship is kind of hard. There are many questions that should be answered. Many obligations that should be done. Ask yourself, Am I a good lover? Do I satisfy the wants and needs of my lover? Does my lover satisfies me? Am I contented? Am I still happy? These are only few of the many questions you should answer in dealing with relationships. But don’t get me wrong here, I’m not pressuring or scaring you. I’m just letting you know these things to enlighten you. They will be somewhat helpful to you. TRUST ME!

Firstly, I want you to know some things before entering the world of being taken.

1. The commitment.

2. The risks.

3. The misunderstandings and fights.

4.The pain.

5. Respect.

6. Trust.

7. Communication.

8. Satisfaction.

9. Contentment.

10. Acceptance.

These are ten of the many things you really need to know and understand before entering relationships. Being in a relationship is not like playing a game, that if you are tired of playing it, you can leave. It’s not like that. Relationships should be taken seriously and wholeheartedly.

Once you are there, always be ready for some bad times. Don’t expect for the perfect relationship. It’s not always a bright sunny day. There are times that you have your bad day and he also have that kind of day. It’s not always cakes and butterflies. Always be ready for the tears. And when those horrible times come. Please, pretty please try to be calm. Think things over. Talk about it in a way that you two can really understand each other.

There’s no point on shouting at each other, blaming your lover, and physically hurting each other. Be careful enough to think before saying anything when fighting. Words are not only words. They can be so harmful at times. Words can make or break a relationship. Words can be sweet but not all the time. Words can also be so frightening.

So, before saying anything on a fight, use your brain. And also be faithful. Being faithful is one of the key to a successful relationship. Loyalty alone is not enough. And to inform you, There is a big difference between loyalty and faithfulness. Learn how to trust and respect your lover. Some of us are always in the state of paranoia. It’s okay to get jealous, but never be paranoid. Remember, those thoughts, those bad thoughts can hurt you. And you’re just hurting yourself.

Always try to be at peace. Just think that, if your lover is cheating on you, it’s not your loss. Your lover is just fooling and cheating his/her self. Lastly, Accept. Just Accept your lover. No matter what he/she is. Learn to accept everything. The good side and the flaws. Relationship is nothing but the commitment. The covenant between two people. It’s beyond the feelings.

To love or to surrender

Love oh Love. It’s sad when cupid hits you at the wrong time. I firmly believe that anybody can be the right person for you. If you just let them be the right one. But sometimes, cupid can be so stupid for making you fall in love at the wrong time. The saddest part there is when you love someone that loves someone else.

To be honest . You can’t blame him/her or yourself. It’s just that he/she loves someone else. It’s not your fault that you love him/her. But always remember that you deserve to be loved. And when you feel that you have the chance to win him/her. GO for it. Fight for it. Cause you’ll never know what will happen. You can be called a wrecker. But you only claim for what is really yours.

But when you feel that nothing is happening during in the process of the fight. Don’t be stupid. Learn how to surrender. Learn how to let go. You have no problem. It’s just that he/she doesn’t love you. If you think you had too much. Move on. Cause in time. You’ll be love by someone who really deserves your love. Love can be so messed up sometimes.